Post made in 2021 with a 2023 update

Post was made in 2021 that i never posted!!!

(will add a 2023 update at the end)

Sooo as you know I'm a mom of a 5yo and a 3yo....

Some days are amazing, when I see there little faces and am just so in love with the way they see life....

Other days..... I just want to hide in my bed because my sweet babies have turned into sour patch kids and I just can't handle it...

Parenthood does NOT come with a manual, and every child is different. Needs to be treated differently, understands differently and just cared for differently.

Example: my son (total mommas boy 😒) he is whiny but can't handle being scolded, he literally cries!
My daughter is a cuddly love bug, buttttt she is stubborn (like me) and extremely strong willed. Can take a scolding and will give you one back.

So what do I do. Handle both differently in a way they will reciprocate. Now mind you I still have my days were I scream at the top of my lungs because they are not listening, but does it always work. No, but when it does they run scared (muahahah).

Now is the solution to always yell, no because then I'll never have a voice. So I have learned to just chill, take it easy and go with the flow.

Did anyone teach me this, NOPE, because as a Hispanic our parents just yelled at us and spanked us. As is my husbands upbringing......

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NOW 2023

Hey! My kids are now 7yo and 5yo and i'm 5 1/2 months pregnant...

Reading this post, i sympathize with my self.

It was hard for me to figure out motherhood and do it the way i wanted.

2 years bow, i do not spank my kids and i do not yell (well sometimes).

My approach is talking to them and helping them to understand what they did and why it was wrong.

I also want them to come to me when their feelings are hurt, which they do. 

We have a relationship where they aren't afraid of me and they know that they can talk to me and i'm here to listen.

I grew up always being afraid of everything and i hated it, i do not want my kids to be afraid or think that anything they do has to be done in fear.

My kids are sweet and respectable, of course they still can through their tantrums and can get rude (they are getting older, and we know the sass multiplies).

Every parent, parents differently and I think you should do what you think is best. For us moms we have so many people "telling us" what to do. we have our moms, mother-in-laws, grandmothers, aunts, sisters, cousins, etc... men have it easier because no one expects anything from them. 

Which is why i do what i like and everyone who is in my life knows do not tell me what you did or how i "should" do stuff, because i will NEVER do what others do if it doesn't sit well with me.

I also am stubborn and hate being told what to do hahaha

So this is just a draft i saw and was like omg i never posted this, let me add in how life is going now as a mama who will be adding another kiddo into the mix!!!